Monday, March 14, 2011

Why pretend to be a dead baby?

I've discovered something that really bothers me (besides the other obvious things that bother me).

Let me explain.

On, a family member invited me to an event to pray for a baby girl who was undergoing surgery.   This isn't a family any of us knows first of all, and second, I don't pray so I didn't respond to the invite either yay or nay.

Unfortunately, the baby girl passed away. Then a new event cropped up for her memorial service.

I don't know if the family intentionally did this, but since the event is public and their wall is open, anyone can post on the wall.  Meaning, they've gotten a lot of really bizarre comments.

The ones that bother the absolute shit out of me, are the people pretending to be the baby girl. They tell the parents that they're happy playing up in heaven with Jesus.

For example, here's a post direct off that wall:

a message from (the baby):
Mommy & Daddy, don't cry, 'cause God is holding my hand and telling me everything is OK. Mommy, God said that I will never want for anything and I will still feel your love all the way up here. I ♥ u Mommy & Daddy! 

Ok seriously?

How the hell does pretending to be a grieving couple's dead child bring any sort of comfort?

If you can't think of anything sympathetic to say, such as offering your condolences, then why the hell are you saying anything at all?

Why do people think this is ok?


Goodyear Family said...

You know, I remember when my cousin died, some of the comments made (thankfully not to me) were just very uncalled for. I remember someone asking his brother (who was obviously very upset by the whole thing) when he was coming back to church- at the wake! I was so mad! People really need to learn that when others are grieving all you say is "I'm sorry for your loss. Is there anything I can do to help you through this difficult time?" Pretending to be the baby may be something they think is comforting to others, but when it comes to death, people just don't understand the best way to handle. My guess is this family is numb at the moment and hopefully not caring about what these people are saying.

Hope said...

I agree, I'm sure that those people feel as though they are being comforting when really it's just creepy.

Eunice said...

Its not ok. We have this prob now and again on my own site. I take them off. Having lost a baby myself, it is freaky frankly. Just my thoughts!:)

mac said...

That's just creepy !

Stacey (aka Ultraprincess) said...

I think that people mean well.... but in these circumstances, even death in general, many people seem to lack common sense.

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